That you really care.
But you have to stop.
It’s destroying you!
Your role as a de facto social worker, to family, friends even strangers, is thankless.
It’s not noble to carry someone else’s emotional weight, just foolhardy and self-loathing.
Besides, haven’t you noticed, that you can’t change people? (Be honest, you already knew this, or at least felt it.)
So what’s your “helping” really about?
In a word, avoidance.
Your “do good” posturing is not about others. Pure selflessness doesn’t exist. It’s always about you, some need you’re trying to satisfy.
Stop looking for an escape, putting on hold issues you should be dealing with.
What’s got you on the run – finances, relationships, your job?
Whatever it is, if you really want to help others, you need to start by helping yourself.
Fake empathy won’t do it.
You can only offer what you have. And if you’re slack, the results speak for themselves.
But if you show yourself some love, by take responsibility for your life, your character and deeds will be a positive example to others.
Now that’s truly doing good.