The Truth About Seeking Approval From Others

Most people are approval seekers.

This is obvious if you’re independent-minded.

When you’re dedicated to building your life, people are followers, desperately trying to get their emotional needs met.

But to the untrained eye, it’s hard to detect, because the guises come in many forms.

What do I mean?

Most people are simply following a routine, their commitment reaching no further than childhood programming.

For example, when a youngster graduates from college and gets a high-status job, their conformist family members are overjoyed. You can imagine the cheers of how they’ve “made it,” and are “set.” In their minds, the efforts to legitimize themselves have paid off with a job well done!

… ah, not really.

What’s really being celebrated?

Look closely, and you’ll find conformity masquerading as the American Dream.

Misguidedly people get excited about being average. That’s right, being typical; for them fitting in equals success. They’re willing to struggle very hard for so little.

Unfortunately, this kind of perspective is detrimental to your personal development.

Being a follower is a form of death.

But I understand why people conform – security.

People are afraid, and being followers provides them with a buffer to forestall their mortality. However, despite their best efforts, the anxiety remains.

Is this how you want to live?

Of course not!

So make a mental shift.

Instead of worrying about what you can’t control (death), try focusing on what you can.

This starts with appreciation and then action. You must get moving by putting your ideas and passions into motion.

Don’t wait for anything. Delays and postponements are signs of fear and uncertainty.

You already know the reaper is waiting. So let go and live.

While nothing is guaranteed, everything you desire is within your grasp.

But you must reach for it.

The choice is yours.

Take care,

Gary

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